He is kind, funny, from a well-off background, and his mum charges me minimal rent. I don’t think I’ll find anyone better, but feel I’m living like a pensioner.
I am 26 and at a top university. I live at my boyfriend’s mum’s house for minimal rent, but feelas if I am living as a pensioner. Our sex life is non-existent: we have tried weekends away, but still rarely have sex.
When we do, it is unsatisfying and awkward. I’ve lost weight and socialise more, and feel more like my old self. I avoid his advances and fantasise about my friend. My boyfriend is kind, funny and popular – our relationship seems perfect.
He comes from a well-off, middle-class background (I do not) and I feel I won’t find anyone better. I feel trapped – he loves me and would be devastated if I left.
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